In order to be happy, we have to take our lives in our own hands. We have to take responsibility for our own happiness, and ultimately, our own destinies. That sounds both obvious and impossible, but in reality, a very small number of people do it. You can be one of them.
It means choosing your present over your past, and your power over the power of anyone else or anything that’s ever happened to you. That isn’t always easy, and many people never do it for the simple reason that it would change everything. If you, and you alone, control what your life will be from now on, that means you have to act to make it what you want, or accept that you’re choosing your current situation voluntarily. A lot of people are too afraid to ever face that, but it is reality.
If you’re stuck and want to get unstuck, there are four main ways people give up control of their lives: victimization, entitlement, rescue, and blame. You need to eliminate these from your life in order to be happy.